UPDATED: How To: Tips On Keeping Your Man
I think it’s time for another “How To” blog from yours truly so here goes…
This topic is one that I see women talk about complain about and every damn thing else on the REGULAR. They’re always b*tching and moaning about some chick trying to or actually taking their man, etc. Well I’m gonna’ help these clueless females out and this information may come across a little strong but after some of yall let it sink in, you’ll see it ACTUALLY WORKS!!!!
#1. Men are VISUAL beings, they like to look at stuff so you always gotta’ switch it up, well you don’t HAVE TO but trust me, you will find him looking at the next chick that does.
#2. Another BIG thing is, a lot of yall get to COMFORTABLE once you think you got him. What you did to catch him, is what you need to continue to do to KEEP him. He don’t want to see you every day in sweats and a silk rag just cus’ you think you don’t have to dress up and/or look sexy anymore. A nice dress and heels does wonders, trust me. I rock dresses all the time and dudes be on me, they love that lady look. Quick Tip: Lingerie is nice, but I sleep in the nude, rag still on my head but yall know what I’m saying, lol…. TMI, I know.
#3. Yall get mad at the so-called “hoes” well contrary to popular belief, aint’ nothing wrong with being a whore, at least for YOUR MAN, the problem lies with you being a whore for any and EVERY man. Women make the biggest mistake in letting their man slip up and fall in love with the “hoe” they’re sleeping with on the side, if you was a hoe at home (or out too, try a lil’ spontaneity, spice things up) you wouldn’t have that problem.
#4. Let’s be grown-ups and face it people will look at and be attracted to other people for the rest of their lives, so stop flipping on the nikka for looking at other women, unless he’s blatantly disrespecting you. In my opinion looking is fine as long as he don’t act on it or touch that broad. On the low, you might wanna’ take notice to what he’s looking at and incorporate that look into something soon, then come back at him like this, yeah I saw you looking at that girl with this dress on, how you like it now? He’s gonna’ be like, naw I wasn’t looking, but he’s gonna’ be thinking to himself, damn my girl’s the SH*T!!!
That’s enough for now, I think I’m gonna’ keep this a running topic and hit yall with some more tips later. Yall try these out and let me know how they work for you.
K.I.M
UPDATED: 11/24/09
So here’s another 1 and I’m just going to add this by itself today because I’m sure there’s going to be a lot of controversy surrounding what I’m about to say.
#5. Women, learn how to shut the F up sometimes and LISTEN to your man! Don’t be so quick to judge and jump on him when he speaks. If you make it so uncomfortable for him to come talk to you, guess what? He’s gonna’ go talk to another chick and as he continues talking to her he’s going to not talk to you, and as he continues talking to her, he’s going to become attracted to her and depending on “her” is whether he will or will not have sex with that girl.
You know how when men cheat, their girlfriends and/or wives are often more pissed off because they feel the woman he’s cheating with is less attractive than her, well that less attractive woman made your man feel comfortable enough to talk to her and then she became less and less less attractive, so not only do you lose your man cus’ you wouldn’t shut the F up, but you lose him to a “busted” chick. Mmmmmm mmmmm mmmmm real love has no look, it’s all about how that person makes you feel when you’re with them.
STAY TUNED FOR MORE TIPS…
Updated 11/29/09
#6 It’s great that you’re self-sufficient and have your own. It’s wonderful you might make more money than him BUT, YOU CAN’T KEEP THROWING THAT UP AT HIM!!!!! It is your job as “his woman” to make him feel like a man and to not emasculate him every chance you get. Regardless of what any man says, ALL men feel some type of way when their lady is making more $ or doing better than them. Notice I said all MEN, not boys or none of that other ish, cus’ MEN are raised to believe that they should be the PROVIDER not the other way around. Me personally, I don’t care if I make more money than my man, all I want is a MAN that is a MAN, the amount of money he makes doesn’t qualify him to me. The fact that he goes out and DOES something without giving up and constantly strives to do better is what qualifies him to me.
In a nutshell…. LET YOUR MAN BE A MAN before the next woman does and you’re alone!!!
i remember thiss onee………. good blog thou girl :-bd
well damn Kim.. I may have to add this on GL…
i agree with your pointers very much and you are right in fact about each fact u stated. however, i still believe that when a man or woman wants to leave a relationship they will leave…some ppl cld go over and beyond and still someone isnt happy or have reasons why they want to leave…and sometimes when they do that doesnt mean you’ve lost…sometimes u have actually won…i do believe however there are a lot of women and or men working hard to keep their relationships and still something is missing…80/20 i guess in some instances…then they realize what they wanted wasnt what they needed and so great after all… keep the tips coming.
I agree with you on the realization of the later “win”. People are scared of change and the unknown. I say live life, I will NEVER stay unhappy in a relationship just so the other person can be happy and really how happy are they really?
I have to agree w/ the update. I have a attitude along w/ a temper but I know when to be quiet at times. It takes a lot to hold it in but I manage lol. It’s so true, men can’t stand a women that constantly wants 2 nag especially about petty stuff. I’m nowhere near a homewrecker but I’ve met soooo many guys that instantly became attractive to me just because I was that chick they could easily talk to an relate to their situations. Guys luv a cool down to earth female that’s like 1 of the homies but she’s still a lady about hers. The fact that I’m also pretty just makes it even better to them. But Kim is right, looks don’t always matter cause even if the chick is ugly he’ll rock w/ her just because she knew how to control her mouth/attitude better than his current GF/wife. Ladies if you get offended then maybe you are the GF/wife that needs to learn how 2 STFU before he’s out the door on yo a** lol. I agree ladies need to know when to just be quiet or say the bare minimum. I’m not saying you have to bow down to a guy, never that. Learn to pick your verbal battles.
There’s nothing else I need to add to that comment Ms. Skyye
Peace KIM…On Point Once again!
This deserves another blog, no WEBSITE by itself…Got another update for you (it may not be as articulate as your’s, but it’s a Man’s perspective nonetheless)…
#7 A relationship requires TRUST in order for it to survive! A Man who loves his woman will NOT cheat on her as long as he has her utmost confidence and trust. Even if it’s thrown at him, if he respects himself AND you as a woman, you my dear, have nothing to fear. It’s true, the lesser evolved male may seek to “divide and conquer” as many as possible to satisfy his ego, especially when he sees that his woman is vulnerable to him, & he gets scared (truth be told, that’s what it is). It also may be true that said woman has tried being in a relationship with one or more of these males that failed miserably, and she may even think it’s her fault. However, when the pain & hurt from this bad experience is projected onto a Man that wants nothing more than to do right by his woman, and he’s accused (repeatedly) of doing what he shudders to even think of, he’s chased away, no matter HOW bad he WANTS to stay! I once heard it called the “too good to be true syndrome”, and I couldn’t have said it better myself. When a Man is good to you, well, he just may BE a good Man! If he’s treated like your previous boyfriends though, as he has probably experienced in his past lives, you will get written off as “another bitter crazy insecure female” that can’t handle the fact that she just may DESERVE to be treated well!!!
Just my 2 cents…Peace…Au