Nobody’s Perfect
February 23, 2010 by Brian Jenkins
Filed under Be Risen, Featured
Don’t you think it is getting just a little bit too tough to deal with people these days? I mean, lets look at it. Divorce is over fifty percent, laws can not get passed because of lack of compromise, and professional women are overwhelmingly single. Why is this though? Why is it that we can not seem to find a way to stay close to somebody without some sort of complicated unforeseeable ending?
I think (and this is just my personal non fact based opinion) that we look for too much out of people. Maybe we treat others as more of a singular minded being, then the complex multi directional souls that we all end up being. Essentially, nobody is perfect, and everybody at some point in time ends up being a hypocrite. Can we blame them though? Isn’t it our fault if we do not allow for these imperfections?
Sam Keen said that “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” To me, that is a powerful statement that would serve us all well in following. Understanding and living with another person’s imperfections, or the ways that they are not like you can only help you grow as a person. It will be the thing that attracts more people to you as a person, because positive energy is shared and negative energy only drains.
But even in that we run into a major issue with ourselves. I mean, who can stay positive ALL THE TIME? It would be impossible. This leads us back to what Sam Keen said about the things that we reflect. As long as three parts good, the one part bad should not be the thing that defines us.
If you are religious, look at the people who God chose in the bible. Solomon had many wives, yet the bible says that God chose him to be the wisest king. Moses was guilty of premeditated murder, but was chosen to free the Egyptians and deliver the Arc of the Covenant. Noah was a drunk, but God chose him to repopulate the earth. So obviously God knows man’s imperfections, but also that they should not limit our greatness.
Even if you are not religious at all, do you really think that Tiger Woods, the golfer, owes us an apology for cheating on his wife? Doesn’t that go too far? Isn’t he still a good golfer, and isn’t that why we know who he is?
We have arguments about arguments, bring up old fights that were already fought and reconciled, attack each other for mistakes made out of anger, monitor and read into each statement we make like the word police. Enough is enough! We have gotten crazy with judging intent, and burning some of our strongest most necessary bridges. I’m not even sure what the solution is, but I do know that it will definitely help to take a few steps back and recognize it. Think sometimes, should it really have gotten this far?
- Brian Jenkins
Twitter: @Brian_Jenkins
BRAVO! No one is perfect and relationships are hard enough without seeking to find pefection …Keep it simple and listen!
Right, we cant over complicate what is already over complicated, if that makes sense…lol
My thoughts exactly. People are MUCH too critical these days, not even recognizing that they wouldn’t be surrounded by loved ones had their flaws not been accepted. The very qualities that make us human, good and bad, are the very things that allow love, great accomplishments, and colorful minds to occur. Of course, where everything is placed and balanced is important. However, it appears everyone wants to take the easy route and just point out the flaws. I blame it on technology – all we want is easy, all the time
Lol…I’m sure technology has a lot to do with this immediate gratification we have going on. Great point, we “wouldn’t be surrounded by loved ones had our flaws not been accepted.”
Love this one B! Once we learn to really appreciate those imperfections, it’s usually the quirks that we fall in love w/ the most. Furthermore, perfect is boring! Great job!
Right, too often perfect is the enemy of the good
This is the truth B!!! Well put!!
Wow!!! Well said B. I can read between the lines and I agree w/ this blog!! No one is perfect. Personally, he (T. Woods) only owes his family the apology. Somethings should be left private even if your a celebrity. A person w/ more money that the average shouldn’t have to live their life as such b/c there a celebrity….
We should all be held to the same standards, and those should be the same standards we hold ourselves to. If we arent persect, why do we ask others to be?
You hit the nail on the head! If we would all take a step back and stop judging each other, our lives would be so much better. Yet, many of us love to listen to and participate in the mental dissecting of others. That type of sensationalism also drives the media and creates lots of revenue because it sells, i.e. everyone wants to know and hear the “down and dirty truth!” The entertainment news shows (CNN, etc.) improve their rating when they drill down on issues and come up with something shocking which will cause someone to have to defend and/or explain themselves. When will we have enough? Never, because although we all know that nobody is perfect, there is still that sense of satisfaction that drives people to want to put the spotlight on the imperfection of others. Do we really think that by highlighting the imperfections of others we are elevating ourselves, or are we raising the bar so high that people no longer care because high moral and ethical standards are out of reach?
Judgementalism (if that is a word) sells right now. We are the right now, reality tv, youtube, film that crash era. But it is having a real affect on our personal relationships and dealings with people.